Thought about...

...cancelling my account/presence on here. In recent weeks I have been told to f.uck off and been called pathetic. Prior to this I have been insulted, belittled and mocked for simply having a point of view. All of the above were instigated ( if that's the right word) by long-term posters and to be quite frank I'm fed up with things like this on here. I find it unhealthy. There are some who resort to insult/ belittlement far too easily and its just not good enough. We are all supposed to be Barnsley fans. I think its a social media thing where people just engage with invisible people without thinking there are real people on the other end but nevertheless it has undermined my willingness and indeed confidence in posting. I don't come on here to abuse, ridicule or insult other people. I don't jump on bandwagons simply because someone else is in a minority. We should all be treated with respect. Period. No excuse for being personally rude or nasty to others. If one makes a mistake one should apologise.
Sorry for rabbitting but I have enjoyed contributing on here but am just fed up with it at the moment.

 

I'm so sorry to hear of your personal abuse. Personally speaking, I believe you're one of the more positive posters on here (with quite a dry sense of humour!) and the BBS will be a poorer place without your contributions. I hope you decide to stay.

 

Mate, this sounds like my marriage, but you don't see me bailing out.

We need long-time posters and I hope you take stock over the weekend and we see you online again for the post-match inquests etc.

 

Take a break fella and come back to it at a later date,

 

Aye that might be a good idea. It's not good for one's mental health when one feels abused and belittled. If I was a completely aggressive troll I'd expect it....Cheers

 

Don't leave. You're one of my favourite posters.

 

As others have said, hopefully taking a break might be enough because personally I think the more folk posting the better( with one or two notable exceptions!)

 

Eh up owd warrior, I've been called all suwerts, from a dog w@nker to being accused of driving posters away from the BBS. Keep on keeping on matey

 

don’t let them get to you mate, the board is supposed to be about opinions and debate .

 

What I try to do with abusive replies.. ( I do screw up on occasion btw) Is respond in an adult way. Takes the heat out of it. And a reasonable conversation ensues.

Some replies are taken totally out of context from the previous post meaning. Especially when sarcasm is seen in the wrong way. Happens all the time.

Abuse that attracts an abusive reply very rarely solves owt.

My hatred for a tory government far outweighs my support for labour. But they are closest to my heart and get my vote. So I can get entangled in controversial issues. That end up just getting batted back with the some abusive responses. Getting nowhere, so time to bow out.

As the saying goes hate football love Barnsley.

When I take a break or hol. The BBS rarely gets a look in, unless it's a non contentious issue. To keep up to date. Eg Newsbot.

Recharge thi batteries and come back firing.

 

****** to what folk say mate, your a good poster, take a few days off, watch the reds get 3 points and a back at it Monday

 

I always say - TEK NER NOTICE!!!!!

 

You've actually made a post that I feel drawn to.I too have suffered abuse for sometimes offering a different view.
I've not posted for a couple of months and in fairness feel better for not doing so.
Your point about invisible people is a valid one and it seems to make some give out abuse without knowing the other persons situation.
Over the years I've championed the "Be Kind" to others motto I even asked the admin to remove the dislike button because it seemed to undermine people having an opinion.
I always tried to explain my views by backing them up with facts but it still lead to personal abuse some which I took to heart.
Peoples views and faith should be respected and not scorned upon.As my late dad always said "its nice to be nice"and I've always tried to live with that in mind.Have a few week off Kamikaze and hopefully you'll come back stronger.All the best.

 

As the missis says

“Hate other peoples driving hate other people cars. Hate other people”

It’s the modern way to shoot from the hip and I know I do it myself sometimes but you are an interesting poster so hope you just mute the idiots ( even if I’m one) and carry on posting.

 

I'll close the door on my way out...

 

...cancelling my account/presence on here. In recent weeks I have been told to f.uck off and been called pathetic. Prior to this I have been insulted, belittled and mocked for simply having a point of view.

Kamikaze -- you have been abused NOT for having a point of view but for probably having a point of view that doesn't toe the line with the bullies on this site.
There is a long list of topics where to have a different view to that of the BBS Blob results in nasty personal abuse. This is probably why a lot of excellent posters have dropped out.
There are only certain political standpoints political and football related views that are allowed - disagree at your peril, you will be denigrated and abused.
If you support every Labour politician/policy, criticise all Tory politicians/policies, support Biden, support criticism of the Club Owners and CEO, don't question the practice of 'taking the knee', if you were/are a Remainer, go on endlessly about the West Stand closure, tell the world you're not a Daily Mail reader etc. etc. you'll be o.k.

If we all stuck to the maxim 'Shoot the message not the messenger' this would be a much better place!

 

Man if your message is trite nonsense like that there is no message to shoot just inanity.

 

I really like and respect you as a poster, for what it's worth.

I have decided this week to withdraw from all political debate on here for the foreseeable future, especially all things covid/Russia. I am definitely very much in the minority with my views and I'm comfortable with that. I've got my principles and won't be shaken. It is however draining to continually be faced with views that don't align with your own and engage in conversation to try and find common ground or defend your position. Either way, you should never ever receive abuse because of it. I've tried to call it out myself when I've seen it, but again this is draining and largely futile.

I'm sticking to footy from now on.

I wish you well Kamikaze, if you do decide to go.

 

thanks - your reply proves my point!