Being a grumpy middle aged man

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  1. Jack Tatty

    Jack Tatty Well-Known Member

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    Is it actually a thing?

    You turn a certain age and everything becomes so serious and you find it easy to moan and complain about near on everything.

    As I've got older I certainly believe I have developed this trait.

    Whilst folk may indeed see the lighter side in this I am actually being serious as I am starting to worry things won't get better.
     
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    Ask Richard Wilson - he'll know
     
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    I started at 18!
     
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    Really?

    I don't believe it.
     
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    I've just asked my wife this question. She replied "No. You're a grumpy, OLD aged man!"
    I must admit I've definitely become less tolerant of ignorance, intolerance, hypocrisy, racism & bigotry as I've got older and have no intention of changing. My dislike of right wing politicians from this country and abroad has also intensified.
    However, I'm lucky in that I have my family to keep me on the straight and narrow. Not everyone is as fortunate as I am.
     
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    I fear the route may be middle aged grumpy man.... to dirty old man. ;-)
     
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    I don't think that lack of tolerance is an age thing. It's just the reaction of a decent person when faced with a burgeoning outbreak of a country leaping far right.
     
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    I do have less tolerance and feel that is a lot going on to be angry at.

    Not good for my mental health though in all seriousness. Not been the best of years .
     
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    Grumpyness isn't wrong, it can be quite cathartic if it's channelled properly, but it's a matter of proportion. If you're permanently grumpy, then I'd say there's something not quite right.

    I think it's important to remember that we all need a certain amount of downtime. Time spent doing things that others might consider meaningless, even boring, but which nevertheless have a beneficial impact on your mental health. For me, it's a mixture of reading, listening to music, and watching my crappy old films. I'm a lot more grumpy if I don't get enough downtime. By downtime, I guess I really mean "me" time.
     
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    That's a very good argument. I must say I've spent more time reading this year, finding it enjoyable and therapeutic.
     
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    Good traits to have. I'm single, (I have a girlfriend), but no kids, but share your view. Too much has happened in my life for me not to have the outlook I have. It's good some of us older ones are not in the camp of the Daily Fail. We are a minority in that age group.
     
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    Hi mate, for me it is dog walking in the woods & music obviously. It helps when we are winning too.
     
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    Turning into your dad(almost)
     
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    The way I've tended to recharge my batteries has been through travel, whether international or domestic. So I'm completely knackered in that respect for a good while! Watching the seasons and wildlife has been even more welcome than usual.

    One of the positives of lockdown and shielding though has been listening to music again. We were often so busy working during the week and compounding it with gadding at weekends that we just never really stopped. So one of the first things we did was get some of the many CD's I'd packed away into the loft just months before (they were on open shelves but looked messy and we just never played them), buy a side unit for the extension, and set up a little music corner. So every day now, even if for only 20 minutes. We pick a CD, open a craft beer and look out onto the garden, or just chat with the lights dimmed or with candelight.

    Sometimes its just simple reminders of things you already know rather than constantly searching for more new things that haven't been experienced before.

    And on that note..... a craft beer and some music await ;-)
     
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    In recent times, just getting out into the countryside for a long walk or run is my antidote to it all. You never feel worse for doing a bit of exercise and letting your mind drift. Modern life is rubbish.
     
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    Can someone put the age ranges on pls e.g. 40 to 59 grumpy middle age......60 to 80 grumpy old age..
    80+ dunt give a sh*te....
     
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    I've done a lot of reading this year as well, I've discovered several authors of books I'd never even heard of before. I like the crime fiction genre personally and biographies of musicians and sports personalities.
     
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    But he could also have a laugh and enjoyed his down time (watching local sports most weekends).

    Sorry for the vent folks but needed to sound off somewhere.
     
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    The vast majority of books I've read are about archaeology & ancient history. However I've also read some of the works of Jules Verne and H.G. Wells. Currently, I reading The Witches: Salem, 1692 by Pulitzer Prize winner Stacy Schiff.
     
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